I was raised in a world where wanting — wanting to be seen, touched and desired — was suspicious.
I layered Lovely by Sarah Jessica Parker, Egyptian Musk by Nemat and Hypnotic Poison by Christian Dior — and realized something much bigger than fragrance.
If you were a woman, you were “too much.”If you were a man, you were “dangerous.”If you were queer, you were “disordered.” In this episode, I talk about reclaiming autonomy — not just over sex, but over your life. This isn’t just about flirting at a bar or smelling good. It’s about the deeper lie many of us inherited: that our happiness comes second to someone else’s theology, reputation or comfort. What if wanting joy isn’t rebellion?What if desire isn’t corruption?What if you actually get a life — one with love, pleasure, partnership and dignity? If you’re deconstructing faith, untangling shame or learning how to inhabit your body without apology, this episode is for you. You’re not too much.You’re not dangerous.You’re allowed to want. If you’re younger and just starting to untangle all of this, I hope you don’t wait as long as I did.
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