May The Odds Be Ever In Your Favor In this episode, I’m talking about “leagues.”You know that invisible ranking system so many of us quietly absorb about who’s desirable, who’s “out of our league,” who’s winning, who’s chosen, and where we supposedly fall inside all of it. The conversation started after a friend reacted to …
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Not a theology debate. Just an honest conversation about love, family, and making room at the table. A conversation for Christian families with queer loved ones. This episode explores the difference between being invited… and truly belonging. We talk about: Not a theology debate.Just an honest conversation about love, family, and making room at the …
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A Hookup, a Rugby Player, and the Shame Script I’m Unlearning In this episode of Soft Weird, I talk about a night out at the Saloon that turned into something much deeper than a funny one night stand story. What started as chemistry with a very large rugby built man became an unexpected reflection on …
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I was raised in a world where wanting — wanting to be seen, touched and desired — was suspicious. I layered Lovely by Sarah Jessica Parker, Egyptian Musk by Nemat and Hypnotic Poison by Christian Dior — and realized something much bigger than fragrance. If you were a woman, you were “too much.”If you were …
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📚 Men-Who-Read kicked off the year together. Our first read of the year was Moonwalking With Einstein by Joshua Foer—and the verdict? Worth it. Smart, engaging, and a solid walk through how memory works, how we’re taught (or not), and why paying attention matters. A little eye-rolling at a few “bro club” moments, sure—but overall, a good book …
Our 2025 reading had a pretty wild and wonderful range—crime, grief, empathy, power, masculinity, obsession, magic, and meaning. The men all showed up with curiosity and generosity, and I’m really grateful for that. Our 2025 Reading List How We Keep Reading Interesting If your “to-be-read” pile could use a little direction (and a lot of …
The holidays can bring joy and grief at the same time—and for many of us, especially queer folks, family gatherings can stir up old wounds, complicated emotions, and a deep need for self-trust. [00:00–01:29] When the Holidays Feel Loud [01:29–02:29] You’re Allowed to Be Where You Are [02:29–04:39] What We Owe Each Other: The Pebs …
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A lesson I learned from playing dodgeball with an incredible sapphic team. Ever feel like the world is spinning out of control? 🌀 In this episode, I share a lesson I learned from a queer dodgeball team — yes, dodgeball — about staying calm, moving with intention, and keeping your center even when everything around …
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A haunting tale that watches you back… and maybe wants more than you think. Step into the shadows with me as I narrate “That Damned Thing” by Ambrose Bierce — a razor-sharp, unsettling classic that’s been making readers squint into the dark since the 1890s. This story is: 👁️ Sinister and suspenseful ✍️ Wickedly clever …
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Some essays slapped, some I skimmed—let’s unpack the highs, lows, and why it still sparked big questions. Good, Not Great (But Worth Talking About) Leslie Jamison’s The Empathy Exams is one of those essay collections that gets talked about a lot. But here’s the thing: for me, it was good—not great. Some chapters gripped me hard (the opening …